Many dreams do not appear to be of the heads-up type although they are likely about your life and those around you. I have found that about 10% of my dreams are of the heads-up type. This probably varies with the interest of the individual in these dreams. If you really do not want them, you very likely won’t see any. If you are interested in them, you will likely see more.
2) Who can have heads-up dreams?
Probably everyone can have these kinds of dreams. Often the person just needs to be told that it is possible. In any audience that I have spoken too, about 50-60% of the people say they have had the experience at least once. It is necessary to start remembering your dreams and writing them down, and dating them. Since only a fraction of them will be of the heads-up type, you will need a collection over time to get going.
3) How can I tell which dreams are heads-up dreams and which are not?
There are a number of indicators. heads-up dreams tend to be shorter than regular or non heads-up dreams. They are likely less symbolic and more literal, although symbols can be present. They seem to occur at the end of a dream session, often seemingly tacked on at the end. There are very few, if any, scene changes compared to what happens in other kinds of dreams. The dream settings can be quite vague. Some times there is little emotion. Each individual gets better at recognizing their own heads-up dreams with practice.
4) What should I do if I think I have had a heads-up dream that foretells something bad in my future?
Dreams often exaggerate to get your attention. If you do have a dream that suggests a worrisome event is to happen, you should consider the possibility. I always have a plan “B” available and if I think that the event will occur I am more ready for it. You may be able to completely avoid a negative event but, if not, you can reduce the impact of the event. If the dream portrays a negative outcome for an impending decision (like buying a house) stall for time. Check out little questions you may have ignored. Often there will be more than one dream on an important topic.
5) What should I do if I think I have a heads-up dream about a friend or relative?
If you have a dream about the well-being of someone, you should talk to them. You can begin cautiously, by asking how they are, and then maybe mentioning that, curiously, you had a dream about them last night. They will very likely want to hear the dream and surprisingly, there is often a connection between your dream and their life situation. You can have heads-up dreams about others.
6) Can I have a heads-up dream about a problem that I have been working on?
If you are concerned about a situation or working on a problem, you will very likely have dreams about it anyway. You can deliberately incubate a dream about your problem by writing it out concisely and thinking about it before bed. By expecting a heads-up dream, you can increase the chances of getting one. However, sometimes the thought of getting such a dream can be scary and it may take some days before you actually get the dream. Be patient.
7) Why have I never had a heads-up dream in my life if they are so common?
It seems to be a matter of imagining that you can actually have this kind of dream. I have found that even individuals who have had many dreams and have recorded them for years may never have had such a dream. Then, after they have heard that such a thing is possible, they start having them.
8) Why do other people not talk about this more if it is so common?
When I talk about this kind of dream, people will often announce that they do this often. The surprise is that they have never mentioned it to anyone for fear of ridicule. Even spouses are not told in many cases. It is a very private event and the dreamer may feel it is a little crazy.
9) Why are some people much better at this than others?
It is apparently no different than any other activity, such as sports or music. Some people seem to be better than others. However, I think anyone can learn and improve in their ability to do this if they really want to do it. I have taught many.
10) Do all heads-up dreams portray unpleasant future events?
My own dreams and those of many others that I have studied suggest that there are both pleasant and unpleasant heads-up dreams. Some could best be classed as neutral. Much like life itself, there are some pleasant and some unpleasant events.